The Gays are Pissed. Now What?

November 15, 2008 at 11:00 am 6 comments

Every other blog post is about gays erupting in righteous anger over the passage of Prop. 8, hate-monger James Dobson’s induction into the Radio Hall of Fame or some other issue. But, what are we accomplishing other than giving people an opportunity to act out?

Don’t get me wrong. I love seeing LGBT people rising up and screaming at the top of their lungs “We’re mad as hell and we’re not going to take it any more!” I just think we need ways to channel that energy and passion into the kind of action that is going to build support for LGBT civil rights and win equality.

We need a 50 State Strategy for Winning LGBT Equality with buy-in from national and state organizations committed to bringing together the financial resources and amazing talents of the LGBT community to defeat anti-LGBT ballot initiatives and advance equality across the country.

Just as Howard Dean moved from “the scream” to masterminding the 50 state strategy that helped the Democrats regain control of Congress and elect Barack Obama as president, we need to takes a systemic inventory of what resources are available in every state and commit to rebuilding the movement from the ground up.

That is going to require our organizations to stop being so damn territorial and require that we all get over our individual biases and grudges to unite around a common agenda for full LGBT equality. A key thing proven by the Obama campaign is that “we is far more powerful than me.”

We need to talk to our family, friends and co-workers about the damage that hateful amendments like Prop. 8 are doing to our lives. We can no longer sit back and let our loved ones get away with saying that the love us while voting for candidates and policies that enforce second-class status on us.

As we enter the Holiday Season, take the Prop. 8 Holiday Season Pledge:

Thumbnail image for Prop. 8 Holiday Season Pledge.jpgI pledge during this Holiday Season to talk to my family, friends, and loved ones about how the passage of these anti-gay referendums affect my life and my happiness.

I will ask them to stand up for me and help me fight future efforts to take away my rights and to deny me basic human dignity.

Between Wednesday, November 26 and Saturday, December 27th, we will have an amazing opportunity to changes the hearts and minds of friends and family who will be able to help us defeat upcoming anti-LGBT amendments.

And most importantly, we have to come out of the closet and be open and honest about who we are. We cannot expect others to treat us with dignity and respect if we are unwilling to demand that dignity and respect.

I understand that for some of us issues like age, economic status, HIV status etc can make it extremely difficult to come out, but far too many of us live lives in gilded closets waiting for others to win our civil rights. We are fighting for our lives and we need your help!

The passage of Prop. 8 and the other anti-gay policies that have passed in recent years are but a hiccup in our fight for LGBT civil rights. Within days of our loss, we turned from sorrow to outrage. We are coming back stronger, harder and hopefully smarter than ever.

This our moment. This is our time. And, we should never give up!


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  • 1. Christopher di Spirito  |  November 15, 2008 at 11:39 am

    I have a business boycott list up.

    There is the beginning of a boycott of Utah tourism, their ski industry and the Sundance Film Festival.

    And before anyone screeches that Robert Redford is a liberal (he is) and Park City is progressive (true), the theater that Sundance contracts with is part of CineMark and the CEO is a homophobic Mormon lunatatic who contributed $9,999 to Yes on Prop 8.

    Redford and Co. can move the Sundance event to California, Colorado or even Canada.

    Finally, I have a link up to a site that will pressure the IRS to rescind the Mormon’s tax exemption.

  • 2. Soltas sobre a Prop 8 « how the enGine throbs…  |  November 15, 2008 at 8:40 pm

    […] The Gays are Pissed. Now What? […]

  • 3. johnbisceglia  |  November 16, 2008 at 5:45 am

    Here’s what –

    The U.S. government crossed a VERY serious line with PROP 8.

    This “proposition” threatened children’s sense of safety and belongingness in California. Children’s safety.

    Regardless of THIS particular fight, there are way too many fights on way too many fronts for us to conquer piecemeal. The Time is Now – DRAW A NEW LINE in the sand and demand from President Obama and our representatives FULL EQUALITY.

    Equality Is Simple When You Simply Include Everybody.

    What? Not detailed enough for the lawyers?

    OK, we can list repealing DOMA, repealing DADT, include transgender in the ENDA Bill, allow adoption of abandoned children, equality in immigration
    issues, recognize our hate crimes as such, equal family/children rights……….whew! See what I mean?

    We are EQUAL SOULS in HUMAN BODIES. Could we please STOP discriminating due to the genitalia attached? Plumbing will determine each civil right?! Any separation from the pack is ultimately due to gender (and/or gender roles & stereotyping), and that is SEXISM. I cannot marry Bob
    because I am the “wrong” gender; if I were a woman I could marry Bob. SEXISM.

    And I cannot stress ENOUGH how my own suffering from Marriage Inequality is NOT the reason for wanting or needing equality. I am not something to focus on. But my story, and the stories of countless other Americans desperately need to be addressed in this civil rights struggle. Marriage laws

    were put in place many years ago in order to PROTECT individuals and their FAMILIES; if they were NOT necessary they would not exist (for heterosexuals). When these laws are NOT in place for ALL OF US, horrible, horrible suffering occurs. My WEBSITE has many examples.

    So Americans want to continue denying us what they have already deemed as essential. And many people want us to WAIT…2….5……10…….20……..30 YEARS, depending on the “civil right”, for what WAS and IS our birthright.

    I personally have a HUGE problem with that. I cannot wait. I will not wait.

    Will you join me on Wednesday, April 15th, 2009, and help me inform the government that WE are eager to be included in the federal tax base as

    soon as THEY include us in society’s laws? My 5-year-old students could understand this concept: EQUAL = EQUAL

    As Americans can’t we agree that there are MANY other important issues to address (like the Economy, Education, Health Care, Poverty & Homelessness, Iraq/Afghanistan…all of these are related), and solving THOSE problems is more urgent than having “Equality Issues” TIE UP THE

    COURTS for another 30+ years? We will NOT go away.

    You keep procreating; we keep popping out. Sorry.

    Our representatives have spent years inventing 4-letter words (DOMA, DADT) to restrict us, deny us, demoralize us, and harm our beloved families and children. Enough is enough.


    The National Equality Tax Protest
    – Wednesday, April 15th, 2009 –

  • 4. Richard Graves  |  November 18, 2008 at 2:48 pm

    I find it staggering that a group, that was chased across the nation because of the intolerance they faced about their marriage practices – facing charges that it undermined traditional marriage – would turn around and demonize and attack the gay community over the same issue.

    The Mormon’s funding Proposition 8 need to be forced to face their own history and hypocrisy.

  • 5. proudprogressive  |  November 18, 2008 at 3:05 pm

    Great post and we as a community need to maximize and thank you for that link , in my 40 plus yrs of activism – Never do i recall a time when our straight allies could see the issue as clearly as many do right now ! – we need to build alliances around issues such as the seperation of Church and state. We need to continue to educate , get out on the streets and talk to any who will listen…keep coming out, keep being strong about the values that those outside our community can relate to as i just mentioned. And working together. Clearly our grass roots are not the elitists in Washington – and we have a ground swell now, that we need to steer with clear eyes and hearts towards increased for ALL – economic , social etc. When we show care about these issues as they affect all americans..our allies will only grow stronger in support of the lgbT

    GREAT POST – on our blog today we have a couple of great vlogs that i hope will become viral. The iron for justice is hot – we must continue to stand – complacency is out of the question.

    Dobson had to lay off over 200 people – how sad. seems they over spent on propagating lies and fears. Life in the backlash is our reality – this activist is ready ! And i take the pledge to continue to educate, relentlessly –

  • 6. Scott  |  November 26, 2008 at 10:19 pm

    What’s wrong with a little act up?


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